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A Dose of Christmas perspective...

12/25/2016

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It's Christmas Day...I'm as emotional as they come because even though I've split the holiday for many years...this is the first year my littles aren't with me at all on Christmas. It is rough, it is heartbreaking...I've been happy, sad, and bitter all within the last hour. However, I received my dose of perspective going back through this precious photos I took yesterday at UVA while meeting Jaxson, Chelsie, and her parents, and then visiting the Roadruck-Tolentino crew catching up on my favorite Iron Man Maddox...

Nursing staff and families desperately try to make the hospital feel more like home during the holidays. From stockings to Christmas trees, presents to holiday socks, even reindeer antler headbands and Santa suit bibs were all seen throughout the NICU and PICU at UVA. All in hopes to just bring a wee bit of cheer to the hospital setting. They all do their best to make the best of every situation, but there is still that hint of despair that things should not be this way lingering throughout the halls...despite the smiling faces and special visits from various people trying to lightening the mood. 

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There are not a lot of visitors up at the hospital, but there is one thing you will find and it is families...parents, grandparents, and siblings alike will all cram around the tiniest of beds surrounded by medical equipment, trying to not trip, pull, or bump against anything for fear it may be problematic. 

Nursing staff do their best to allow families "their special time" with the child they're visiting, but there is always a hustle and bustle throughout the units, as medications have to be given, settings are constantly being changed, and even just the stimulation of having visitors can be too much for these little ones to handle...here is where the perspective starts...a mother praying her newborn baby will finally open his eyes and the first person he sees wil be her, rather than a stranger. A nurse that sees this sweet child in an uncomfortable state, but also is begging for his eyes to open and see his mother for the first time as well...rather than having to give him medications that will cause him to fall back asleep and allow his body the rest it needs to heal.

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My children may not be here with me, but they are not in the hospital either...I'm not begging God to hold them for the first time still...I not having to witness them fight every second of their life against a diagnosis that says, the odds are stacked against you.

I've been in this brand of shoes, just a different model...I've been the NICU mom twice waiting to know what the next day held...but here...it is minute-by-minute. I never had to stand next to their isolette staring at a piece of green plastic, praying to constantly see their little heart continue to beat on its own. The very definition of helplessness as a parent is defined by this picture...but so is the very definition of hope.

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I was bitter until I remembered the frustration, the heartache of having to split a family apart during life-long hospital admissions. Families that have spent their child's entire life living in two separate places. Constantly trying to find a way to be together...but yet knowing the quality of life for siblings while stuck in a hospital or hotel room every weekend to see their sibling isn't fair to anyone either.

Many of these families would never ask for a dime of help from anyone, even though the out-of-pocket costs are astronomical between travel and lodging costs, in addition to just real life bills and responsibilities...they don't see these costs as a burden, they see them as a necessity. Trying to keep their family together, handling not only the complex medical care decisions for one child, the exhaustion of working full-time and raising two other children at home, and then add the stress of trying to maintain normalcy...but knowing that this is normal for us...it is a completely different dimension of life. This daily struggle, is something no one should have to go through, but families do this every day of the year...the struggle is only intensified over the holidays...and comes with all of the same emotions, but a million times stronger. 

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So while I won't invalidate the feelings I had earlier today...I will remember these sweet families, and the immense amount of emotions they're experiencing right now. The families who are hanging stockings and placing ornaments on their tree for children who are not home...and the ones decorating gravesites for children who left this world far too soon.

The holidays are always so full of excitement and joy...but they are also filled with those darker emotions that seem so unfair and cruel to have to feel during such a magical time. The one thing each of these families have is hope...hope that a second opinion will show there is still more that can be done, hope that tomorrow will be the day the swelling decreases enough to close a chest, hope that funding will come through to ease financial strains, hope that their child will finally be closer to home...and hope that one day their normal includes everyone under one roof together.

It is in these reflections...the true nature of what having a child born with complex medical needs is revealed, the face of these diagnoses is truly seen for what they are. Sure, there are all the happy stories of Santa visits and celebrities giving out gifts, but the other side...the family side needs to be seen as well. So while you may be like me right now, sappy and emotional over the not-so-great part of your holiday...remember there are other families in the same brand of shoes, just a different model too. They feel your emotions as well...but if they can still have hope, then so can you.  

3 Comments
Carol Aikens
12/25/2016 05:46:23 pm

You my sweet lady are amazing and have such a caring, giving heart. Thank you for yesterday it was so wonderful to meet you. Your post touched my heart Thank you and may you have a blessed day.

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Eric Aikens
12/25/2016 06:02:50 pm

Thank you for everything yesterday you really blessed us have a Merry Christmas and keep doing what you doing

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Tracey
12/26/2016 08:22:11 am

I read your blogs often and thank god for the work that you do! You are ablessing to so many families offering these little loves and thwir families hope, grace, compassion, love, and so mucheck more. You are an instrument of his will and an answer to the prayers of many! Thank you!

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